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This is something I have heard about from other twin mums – most of whom haven’t been fans. Something that is good for a short while, I’ve heard, but the uneven weight distribution makes it sore on one shoulder.
I question their use of the term ‘short while’, as this mofo was NOT good at all. Not even for three seconds.
That being said, I know that some people with toddlers and newborns have used this carry to great success.
My video is something between a how to and a FAIL video, because it ended up not really working for me. Please let me know if you have tips, as this was quick and simple to do – but I’m clearly either not doing it right, or it genuinely is a carry that just won’t work for us. *shrug*
So….we’ve got family time for the next six days as we’re all home together. I am busy, busy, busy uploading a lot of new babywearing videos – both solo and tandem carries. These tandem carries work for twins, or a toddler and a newborn.
I tried out a new carry just for a lovely Mama named Catherine, who has a gorgeous son and is very, very close to her due date! She wanted to tandem wear, and I thought I might give her some other ways to think about wearing them both. And to my surprise, I found a new carry I love and it has even given me new appreciation for my semi-stretchy wrap.
A sneak preview:
Perhaps a slightly dodgy picture, but a lovely carry that is eminantly suitable for an older child and a baby. Or, you know, two babies!
As of this past Wednesday, Snort is a whopping 19 lb 7 oz, and Coconut is 17 lb 4 oz (@ 33 weeks old). And I can honestly say that though this was my first time trying this and no doubt I can improve my technique, it was so bloody comfortable I wore them for ages! Such a delightful surprise.
So thank you, Catherine, for getting pregnant and chatting with me. I’m sure I have not ‘invented’ this as a carry, but I know I’ve never seen or heard of it. Bless me in my ignorance, maybe, but I think it highlights something lovely about babywearing:
There are a lot of ways to do it. A lot.
And sometimes you’ll try and screw it up (perhaps I will upload my ‘oh, fuck it!’ video too), sometimes it’s just be normal and lovely, and sometimes you’ll try something new and want to marry it.
Something I tried and do not like (yet?) is this:
Oh. There is no picture of it. That’s how much I did not like it. There is a video, though, and I have yet to decide if it is a ‘how to’ or a ‘babywearing fails’ video. Or perhaps a ‘how to NOT do it.’
Or a ‘how to do the most painful and screwed up carry in the known universe’ video.
The other big news is that within about week, this site will be shifting to a new domain. All the same entries and features, but perhaps a bit more accessibility. I’m very excited about it and the countdown is officially on!
Hoping you all have lovely long weekends! I will not be online as much, but am still available in the Facebook group ‘babywearing twins’, on Twitter as @2moms2babies, or email email@example.com.
The lovely Natasha has another video for us – it is a variation on the pocket front cross carry she showed us last time. This carry is ideal for teensy newborns, or perhaps twins that are a bit tiny due to prematurity.
I never tried this as, well, I couldn’t walk for ages after mine came out – but also my twins were full term, full size Giant Babies!
So without further ado:
Zina’s a twin mum I met through a natural parenting board. Her babies Bo & Luke were born 9 weeks premature. She rocks tandem babywearing hardcore, as seen here:
Both babies froggied in a stretchy wrap, 6 weeks old.
I think this picture shows something I haven’t mentioned before: with young or tiny twins, it is more than possible to wear them both on your front. There are videos on how to do this on YouTube. This looks like a pocket front cross carry – basically Zina has one twin per piece of fabric coming down over her shoulders,with the pocket pulled up over both. This means each baby has two layers of fabric over them, rather than the three a singleton in this carry would have over him/her.
As seen in the close up below, each baby still is in a good position – open airway (not slumped) and access to plenty of fresh air (no fabric over their faces).
I think it’s lovely to show a mama wearing both her babies so young – in addition to the benefits of being close to their mum (which are many), mums like Zina can do other things while loving on their babies – like stepping outside for some fresh air & sunshine.
When twinnies are young, it can be hard to babywear – particularly if you are breastfeeding. They need to eat very often, times two (or three, or…!). A simple carry like this in a stretchy wrap can be done quite quickly, with minimum fuss.
Ok…more of Zina and her mad skillz…
Here the boys are four months old – in this clever mirror shot, you can see that the baby in front is in a FWCC (front wrap cross carry) in a Neobulle Simon 4.6. Mr. Baby-on-the-back is in a Beco Butterfly.
Zooming forward in time:
Here the boys are 6 months old. She is using a tulikowo mei tai on the front, and a Didymos Goldfish 4 in a ruck carry on the back.
And zooming forward a little further:
This is a Didymos Deep Sea Fish 7, in a ruck/front cross carry. The boys are 9 months here.
I’m a big fan of wraps, and this looks like a great carry. I’ve not actually tried it yet, but these pictures are inspiring me!
And big sister wanting to get in on the action:
I think Zina shows that the way you babywear will evolve through time. I know on a day-to-day basis I choose different ways to babywear!
Doesn’t she make twin babywearing look beautiful??
Different people like different ways to wear their babies, but one of carriers I use a lot with my babies is a wrap.
A wrap is a long piece of material that you tie around you in various ways to securely wear your baby or babies. In my opinion, it offers the adult superb support (I still have SPD at 6 months post-partum, and wrapping a baby well means I can barely feel the weight!). Because the fabric is used to firmly carry the baby next to you, there is a less ‘hangy’ feeling, which is particularly important when you are wearing more than one baby or toddler.
Wraps are very versatile. You can wear one baby on your back, front, or hip using a variety of ways to tie. You can wear two babies on your front (newborn twins) or on your back (though I’ve not tried this yet!). You can also wear one baby on the front and one on the back. Wraps offer excellent weight distribution, and have the added bonus of The Snuggle Factor.
Wraps come in a wide variety of lengths.
Once a baby has outgrown a wrap, it is quite easy to sell them on – and depending on the make and style, you may be able to recoup what you paid for it in the first place. Some people keep their wraps to pass on for their children to use when they have children. Other uses for wraps are swings, hammocks, blankets, or building ‘tents’ in your house!
There are a few different types of wraps.
The most mainstream seems to be something like a Moby wrap. This is known as a ‘stretchy’ wrap because it is very elasticated. These sorts of wraps are usually supremely soft and cuddly, though they are limited in use. Stretchy wraps stop being useful for a singleton when that baby hits around 14 or 15 pounds (please note I am speaking in general terms). After that point, the fabric is not as supportive and the baby may slide down, the fabric may pull on the parent’s shoulders and they will feel the weight, etc.
Stretchy wraps are often flaunted as being a great way to wear twins – and for tiny twins (newborn or premature), they probably are. Popular instructions for this show how to wear both babies on your front. Again, these sorts of wraps are about how comfortable you and the babies are. You also need to wrap very tightly with stretchy wraps (woven wraps are more forgiving). Stretchy wraps are not recommended for wearing a baby on your back (with perhaps the exception of tandem wearing with a Wrapsody, which is twin-friendly if you like stretchy/hybrid wraps).
Snort in a stretchy wrap. (Wrapsody/Gypsy Mama Baby Bali Stretch – Isis)
The non-mainstream but most widely used by *ahem* hardcore babywearers are woven wraps. These are suitable from newborn to age three – and beyond! You can comfortably wear one or two babies in this sort of wrap – I prefer to have one on my back and one on my front.
Woven wraps have a slight diagonal stretch – but don’t be deceived by the word ‘stretch!’ They are very supportive wraps, and when I have both babies snugly in one I am not exaggerating when I say I can barely notice their weight. (Snort is over 17 lbs, Coconut over 16 lbs!) I adore woven wraps and they are really all I use, particularly those from Didymos.
Woven wraps, brand new, can be expensive. Some brands are pricier than others, but I do think it’s a good idea to do your research. If you go onto a babywearing forum (see the links at right), you can buy a secondhand woven wrap for a very reasonable price! Another bonus of getting a pre-loved wrap is that they are broken in – much like a pair of jeans, woven wraps soften up and get more comfortable with time.
Woven wraps can be organic cotton, cotton, linen, wool, kapok, silk, cashmere – or any combination of the above.
Non-woven, non-stretchy wraps can also be made from gauze, and several companies sell these.
It is also possible to make a homemade wrap from fleece, linen, cotton, etc. Homemade wraps will not have diagonal stretch – so may be best for a smaller/younger baby as they may not offer a good level of support for an older baby.
Wrapping probably has the steepest learning curve of all the ways to wear a baby. Many people feel confused and overwhelmed by the amount of fabric. I felt like I’d never be able to do it the first time I tried – how could I remember all the steps? Would I do it tight enough? What if the babies cried while I was figuring it out?
Coconut in a woven wrap.(Didymos Lena 6)
I started by wearing just one baby in a wrap – and by the fourth or fifth time I did it, it felt much easier. I don’t even think about it now! Wrapping has also helped me get on much quicker with mei tais, buckle tais/soft structured carriers, etc because the logistics are often based on wrapping.
What do you think about wraps? Have you tried them?
Hello, all. This isn’t my first or only blog, but it is the first time I’ve had a blog exclusively dedicated to one subject – babywearing. I have a lot of babywearing in my main blog (ask me for a link if you’re interested), but decided it would be nice to pool my babywearing resources into one area.
I plan to make a number of videos over the coming months (and years!), showing other people different ways to wear more than one baby or child. At the moment, I have 25 week old twins. This means that a lot of the carries suitable for newborn twins are no longer okay for my babies, so I am going to do my best to search out others who are willing to contribute their pictures and videos to the site.
I also have babies of the same ages, so most of my stuff will focus on tandem wearing twins, or solo babywearing. Likewise, I may search out other parents with children of different ages who tandem wear if that is something people would find valuable.
Babywearing is an old art, but always evolving. Some of the carries I plan to show you in picture, video, and word have been made up by parents, and I’ll do my best to always credit them. Things are always shifting and being created, and people are always finding new ways to babywear. I think this is particularly true of tandem wearing, because you have to be creative in times of need.
Please always feel free to comment with questions or suggestions. I genuinely want to help people interested in babywearing find easy, comfortable, and secure ways to get closer to their babies/children!